“I grow with grace. I lead with heart. I rise with purpose.”

ENFJ personality & Yi Wood (乙木):

• Empathetic
• People-focused
• Sensitive to feedback and emotional energy
• Driven by connection and harmony
• Oriented toward caregiving, not just receiving

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March 16, 2022: What are you grateful for today, Tina?
Today I'm grateful that I have a healthy body to let me do the things I want to do during the day. I have people in my life who cares about me and checks in with me. I'm grateful for my resilience in times of difficulty and I still trust in my ability to overcome any challenge I face. I'm grateful for how I have adapted to change. I can do this because I've already shown myself I can.

March 17, 2022: How about a kind word towards yourself, Tina? Let your inner voice have your back today.
You have done your best to fight for your life. You work harder than you did before. And results are showing. Don't rush them. And don't expect perfection from the get go. You got this. You can do this. I will be with you all the way if no one else is. We are all we need.
Today, I'm grateful for a good night sleep. Giving me the energy to do what I want to do during the day. Everyday is a choice. Even with limited choices, they are still choices. I'm grateful I can recognize my choices and spend my energy on things that I can influence while letting go of things I can't change. Life is short and unpredictable. So I will be grateful for what I'm given during the limited time I have to enjoy them.

"Motivation: Encourage positive thoughts and embrace a goal-getter mindset with daily quotes on the phone.

"I don't care who I lose anymore, I only care about the people who choose me."

"Work on being in love with the person in the mirror who has been through so much but is still standing."

March 19, 2022: What are you grateful for today, Tina?
I'm grateful for my strength. I have overcome so much and will overcome even more. I am proud of myself for living everyday to its maximum so I have nothing to regret in the future. People can do hurtful things to me but it is my choice how I allow them to affect my mental and physical health. I am responsible for myself and I can heal myself. I will take care of myself. I promise.

March 20, 2022: How will you show yourself some love?
I will drink water, breathe and practice kindness to myself. I will tell myself when I have done something on par with the things that I will tell others I'm happy for them or proud of them when they do it. Today, I will tell myself: I'm proud of you; I'm happy for you. You've done a great, amazing job this week at keeping up with your life. You did not let disturbance or road blocks stop you from doing your best everyday. You cried. You laughed. You progressed, you also staled. Every moment belongs to you and you embraced them. You are now truly responsible for yourself with every change you make. Good job. Keep it up, I love you!
I'm grateful for my courage to live the way I want to live. I am grateful for the daily compassion, sensitivity, awareness, kindness given to me. I am grateful for my willingness to give in hope that everyone in my path can feel love in my presence. I'm grateful I have, therefore I can give. I'm grateful for the opportunities in my life that shaped me into the person I am today. I'm still learning, I am growing. Day by day, I am becoming more comfortable in my own skin and I wear my values with pride.

March 22, 2022: You are walking in the right direction, Tina. "Keep your face towards the sunshine and shadows will fall behind you." - Walt Whitman
A very good quote from 7 good mins today said that every morning we wake up, we immediately think of our past and trigger the sad memories. I agree and disagree. Thinking about the past can be unproductive but sometimes thinking about the good memory can motivate me to work towards it again. I want to live everyday to my max and when I go to sleep at night, I'd say to myself, Tina you did your best and you had a wonderful day. Let's do that again tomorrow.
I'm grateful for the pleasures I have access to in life. I will continue to work hard to build good habits that will keep the doors to luxuries open. Gambatei!

"Love yourself enough to never lower your standards for anyone."

March 23, 2022: What are you grateful for today, Tina?
I'm grateful for my friends. They have shown up in times that I didn't even realize I needed them and supported me in ways that comforted me. I might not have been a good friend myself but they have shown me that regardless, I'm loved for who I am. I'm grateful that I have positive people in my life guiding me onto the path that I want to be on. It has not been an easy road to walk on but I have overcame challenges I was presented with. I'm grateful for my strength. I have shown not just to myself but also to my peers that my strength in hardship can be an inspiration to all. What I've done for myself is bigger than myself. Thank you Tina for being strong and motivated.

March 24, 2022: What are you grateful for today, Tina?
I'm grateful I have a breakfast to look forward to this morning! I'm grateful I have a delicious lunch to look forward to after a morning of work!

March 25, 2022: "Never allow waiting to become a habit," Tina "Live your dreams and take risks. Life is happening now." - Paulo Coelho
Omg I was literally thinking about this this afternoon! I thought wow, I really made full use of this week. When things aren't right, instead of sitting around and mopping or crying to people who care for me, I just went ahead and think how to help myself. And the more I help myself, the happier I became and the more confident I am. Confident that I am capable of taking care of myself. Confident that I know who I am and what I want. Confident that even if everyone in my life leaves me, I can be happy. Because happiness is an everyday choice. If I don't live happy today, today will pass and I cannot go back and redo. Everyday is a choice and once that choice is made, it's a memory. I want to have many memories in which I would be: hey Tina, that was fun and you were happy. And because of that accumulation, you are happy now. Jiayou!
I am grateful for kind strangers. Today I was eating my take out chicken rice and I spilled the rice all over the floor on the train seat. The kind stranger next to me was very patient and understanding. He told me to stay calm and relax. It's no big deal. He told me help is coming. Stay patient. And he was caring and non-judgmental. That moment I was flustered. But I should learn from this kind stranger. Stay calm, understanding and non-judgmental. Im sure if he was the opposite, my day would be ruined and I would've felt worse. Yet, just a simple gesture of kindness, he made my day and I slowed down my pace. This is a reminder that kindness is all around us, only if we are willing to slow down and receive them.

March 26, 2022: How will you show yourself some love and what are you grateful today, Tina?
I will be patient with myself.
I'm grateful for my dreams. That when I wake up, no matter how scary it was in the dream, it was just a dream and I can get out of it knowing I am safe. Compared to my dreams, in real life, I have the ability to accept my predicament, however scary it can be. If it is something I don't like, I can change it. In my dreams, I'm just an actress and only a NPC player. It's scary that in the dreams, I have to accept all that's happening to me without the power to act on my behalf. A dream is a movie. My life is not.

March 27, 2022: This body of yours, Tina, its strength moves you through the world. Look upon it with appreciation today instead of judgement.
My blocked ears have been getting worse again. I'm suspecting it's because I spent most of today talking about myself. The more I talk, the more I stress. I need to stop obsessing over the past and focus on the present. Think about what I want in the future and make small reachable action steps to get there eventually. I want blocked ears to go away. How? I need to have less stress. How? I need to stop thinking about things that shouldn't matter. I need to focus on myself. Focus on what's important to me. And what's important to me is my health. Not what others think about me. Tina. What's important is your health. Every time you think about what others think, your health takes a toll. You are stressing your body and causing it to break down faster. Don't do it anymore. It's not a warning. It's happening.
I will relax.
I'm grateful today that I went to an exhibition of Mucha, brilliant, talented artist from the Art Noveau period, an artist who pretty much influenced all of comics today! The way he captured the strength and confidence that every woman has within her but kept her gaze soft and gentle was insane. How did he do that? He must have known that this is how we want to feel inside. Maybe it helped that he had three beautiful sisters with whom he could learn from. You can really see how his art progressed as his continued to practice his skills. The strokes progressively felt more at ease and matter of fact. This is a good reminder that no one was born awesome - they worked their way into their unique awesomeness. His art really peaked when he was in his late 30s and early 60s! I'm grateful that I had this opportunity to learn his history through the beautiful art he left for us. Truly blessed.

March 28, 2022: There is a reason you are here, Tina. Keep returning to it and you will find your way.
The reason I am here is to live. My life has been given a different purpose from the average 30 years old. Or has it. I'm sure there is other 30 years old out there who has to live without their family and friends too. Think about the foreign workers. They might have to risk their identity just so they can earn a living for themselves and family back home. Put siblings through school. They might have to do that before they were at the legal age of 18. Now they might be over 40 and still doing it everyday, with kindness and courage. Your reason is to acknowledge that and be brave. Head towards the difficulties in your life and confront them. Learn from them. Teach them. Don't be upset over change. I know you don't like change. But change is the only way you've ever grown from. Hang in there buddy, you got this.
I will love myself by managing my time better. Not let my preconception of how things should be to dictate my life but how I want to get things done instead. I'm given the opportunity and flexibility of work and I should maximize this experience. I'm the one responsible for my life and making sure I'm living it fully. Not to show others I'm doing what they think I should be doing. In any case, they're probably too busy with their own life that they ain't paying attention to me anyways, it's probably all in my head after all.
I'm grateful for a nice comfortable bed to sleep on at night. Fluffy pillows with clean sheets, air-conditioning while blankets provided warmth in my little nightly cocoon. I'm grateful that after a good night rest, I can wake up to brush up in a clean bathroom. I can enjoy a morning skin care ritual. I'm grateful for all the things that I get to own in my life that makes my everyday an enjoyment - no matter what the rest of the day might look like.

March 29, 2022: Tina, every habit you automate means time and energy you get to direct into something new.
Today I got my third dose of Covid vaccine. Compared to the last two, instead of just resting, I did a lot of stuff. Work..laundry..cleaning..shopping. I'm proud of myself for improving and taking care of myself.
I will love myself by not being judgmental of myself and others. I will always seek to give kindness, even when it is difficult to do so. Because this world needs more kindness. To get more, I need to start by giving more.
I'm grateful for the back medicine that is easily procured in pharmacies. Now I feel less sore and I can embrace the rest of the day with lesser pain.

March 31, 2022: Your best self is evolving, Tina. Give yourself credit for being here.
Oh yes. Today I posted my floral arrangement work on Instagram and got lots of praise. I guess I was so fixated on the idea that people are judging me that I was so scared to interact with anyone. But heck no. So what if they're judging me. They still curious and want to know about me. Just like I am too about them. But after that moment of curiosity, I'm focused on myself most of the time. I'm sure this is the same for others too. So stop thinking so much. Life is short and you're here to live. Do what makes you happy and walk away from anything that doesn't. This moment will pass whether you cherish it or not. I am happy to share my beautiful creation with my friends.
I will love myself by being kind to myself. Do my best at work and not judge my results. Keep encouraging myself that I've done my best, and that's what counts. Be understanding that I might not be as good at what I'm working on but I'm willing to learn, to keep improving. I know I will improve. I just need the time and opportunity to work on it more. Be kind Tina. Be kinder to yourself.
I'm grateful for my flower class. Yesterday, I attended a mega flower class that designed flowers for a table banquet. It was a lot of fun and interesting to see a bunch of strangers connect to learn with each other, working in teams to create a big beautiful design together. I learnt from myself that I can be patient and accepting of other's perception of beauty. I'm also grateful for this opportunity to learn a new skill. Thankful for resources and people who supported into making this hobby a reality. I'm also grateful that I'm entering a mindset where I'm actively looking for things to do for myself, think for myself and be responsible for myself. Making beautiful flower arrangements make me very happy and calm. I want to keep perfecting my skills.

April 2, 2022: Do you remember that moment, Tina, you knew what you wanted to do with your life?
Yes, the moment I want to live my life to experience as much as I can. Be independent. Be happy. I want to be responsible for myself. To not have to blame or rely on others. To even, be in the position to help others. Be kind. Be a role model for myself. Today I signed my first customer! I have to give myself credit for pushing this through. Believe in myself that I am doing a good job. Tina, I'm proud of you! Keep up the positive work attitude!
I'm grateful for people who take time out to spend time with me because they enjoy sharing space with me. I'm grateful for the opportunity to be social and be myself at the same time!

April 3, 2022: Tina, maybe the biggest choice in your life is this: You can feel bitter for what you do not have or grateful for what you do.
Yes. I choose to be grateful for what I do. I choose to spend everyday to the max and live with zero regrets. I choose to go ahead and do the things I want to do when I want to do it because I do not know how much time I have left. I only know I have today. And I will make the most of it. Everyday.

April 6, 2022: Imagine yourself in 6 months Tina. What delights you most about that image?
I might be certified as a Dutch florist!! Today after class my teacher asked me if I played with flowers before I attended class with him about 8 months ago. I said nope. He was surprised. He said I'm considered talented. That must mean something right? I'm really proud of myself at the moment. I'm doing well at work. I'm doing well in my hobby. I'm taking care of my physical and mental health. Tho, I want to improve on my food choices and workout. That is something I want to pick up. But I'm so happy now.

April 7, 2022: If you were really honest with yourself, Tina, whose life have you been living?
I have to be honest, I've been living my parents expected life plus my friends. I want to please the people in my life so much that I was willing to give them my everything. No. I gave them everything. It isn't until something bad happened to me and most of them treat me as invisible or vermin even that I realized I was wrong in my approach. I don't blame any of them but myself. I should have lived for myself and then I would have avoided my current predicament. So. Starting from now on, I will live my life for myself only. I will not say yes to anything I'm uncomfortable with and I will take responsibility for any discomfort I caused for myself during this uncertain yet exciting journey called: MY LIFE.
I will love myself today by not putting too much pressure on myself. Do my best for things and embrace whatever outcomes given. Don't expect what I want. Just be receptive of what is.
I'm grateful for Thursday, as it's a day closer to Saturday. I now look forward to the weekend because of how hard I have worked during this week. I have so much I want to do over the weekends that I actually plan ahead now. For instance, this weekend I booked myself for a treatment and then go to a musical. I mean, how did I get this lucky?

April 12, 2022: What are you grateful for today, Tina?
I'm grateful my LD partner is finally in the same timezone as me after two years of LD in 12 hours-difference timezones!! YEAH!! I'm also grateful for spa treatments, they are a pleasure of beauty. I enjoy them so much that I'd like to make it a mission to be able to experience as many as I can around the world in this lifetime.

April 18, 2022: If you could accomplish one thing today, Tina, What would you choose? Now...which part of that is already possible? And why not being?
I accomplished living in a new city all by myself and earned a living to pay for it all. I need to find a way to sustain this way of living because this is what I want. I need to find a way to keep this.

April 19, 2022: How will you show yourself some love?
I will love myself by calming myself down. Last night I have bad ear blocks again and at some point I can barely breathe. I feel so much better today after a good night's rest. I need to sleep more, eat better and relax more. I will love my mind and body so they can serve me to enjoy my day.

April 30, 2022: What are you grateful for today, Tina?
I am grateful for the beautiful rose garden I got to see today. It amazes me that such a big place of roses, hydrangeas, daisies are all well maintained by professional gardeners so that people can view the seasonal flowers for free in this city. I am grateful that I have access to be surrounded by beauty, which motivates me to bring beauty onto myself. I'm also grateful for the good food I get to enjoy. I am grateful for a clean environment to rest and relax in. I am grateful that I have become a trustworthy friend to myself. I am not alone if I have me to walk this life together with. No matter at times how close I became with certain people in my life, they still have the choice to live a life away from me. One thing is for sure: I can never leave me. I will never leave me. I will treat myself with kindness so I receive kindness. I will treat myself with love and I am loved. You can only rely on yourself in this selfish world.

"It's better to have nobody, than to have someone who is half there, or doesn't want to be there." - Angelina Jolie

May 2, 2022: What are you grateful for today, Tina?
I'm grateful that I live in a generation where I can easily take a picture of my life and revisit the moment at anytime I wish. There's real power in that. Today I had a moment of real fear. I think it has been awhile since I've felt truly scared. I couldn't remember a friend's name no matter how hard I tried to recall my memory. This isn't the first time I couldn't remember something that's supposed to come naturally. It has scared me before but not like today. Where I really believed I might have early Alzheirmers (lol, talk about being dramatic...) Listen to your body. I can feel my body breaking down. In my twenties, I was so busy living life and pleasing others that I drowned out my body's distressed signals. Now when everything is so quiet and I'm spending most of my time alone, it's hard not to notice how loud my body is screaming for help. My mind isn't strong enough to support all that's going on. A change is needed for better or worse. I choose better - I need to be better. I need to be stronger and braver to meet my life challenges face to face. To accept the challenge and not play dead when things get difficult. Even if loosing my memory is part of the universe's plan for me, I need to learn to accept the challenge and make it not a problem. (*touch wood) So I'm grateful. That I live in an age where I have technological tools to do the heavy lifting for me when it comes to preserving some of my memories. I want to learn ways to support my body when she finds it challenging to function the way she was born to perform.

May 12, 2022: What are you grateful for today, Tina?
I'm grateful I'm breathing and alive and not dead. It was a very scary near death experience today, day five of Covid and I felt out of breath, intense throat pain and tightening of chest. A few times I felt dizzy because of the lack of oxygen. It was scary because I thought I'd faint and no one would be around to assist me if that happens. The pain was so much that I have been awake experiencing it for two days. I'm grateful for a healthier body now than this morning at 4am. I'm grateful for the drivers who bravely drove me to the ER and back home. I'm grateful for the limited medical access when I need them. I'm grateful for all the food, medical and sustenance deliveries to my room. I'm grateful for people who checked in with me and delivered those essential items. I'm grateful for my partner for being available whenever I needed him on speed dial. I am appreciative of his guidance on what I should do and his diligence in understanding the detailed contents of my medication to ensure the fastest recovery possible. I know I am loved. I need to take care of myself. Nothing matters without health. No journey without the vessel. Tina - this is important. Please take care of yourself. You have been given another chance to live, please cherish it well.

May 17, 2022: Don't underestimate yourself, Tina. Once those habits get stacked up and running, you will have a whole new lease on life.
Yeah Tina. Don't underestimate yourself! You have achieved so much than you ever thought you could. Don't stop now. I forbid you to! You can and you know you can because you have done it before. The second time will be easier because you are a master of finding efficiency at repeated tasks. Habits are not built overnight. But little by little, they won't even feel like chores anymore because things will just flow smoothly. Like you've always done it. This time last year you were so proud of this new skin routine. Now? It's a habit that it feels weird to skip. Result? Awesome skin. Now go work those habit! I'll see you in a year and we'll both be smiling. Smirking.

"You deserve the love you keep trying to give to everyone else."

June 6, 2022: Tina, "Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. "Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great." - Mark Twain
Yes this is so on topic. My family has been belittling me so that they can continue to have control over me. My partner has told me to take my power and protect myself. This is the difference. Although it pains me to see that my choice to protect myself hurts my family, I doubt they ever thought about how much they're hurting me too. So, it's not a tit for tat, it's a realization and finally stop being hopeful. Like what my therapist said, when someone shows you who they are, believe them. My family has threatened my safety while I'm in a very dangerous situation just because they have felt discomfort. That is not something I should take lightly. Although I know my family would never intentionally hurt me physically, they have on many occasions hurt me mentally and it's worse when they have control over my life. Never. Again.
I will love myself today by being more productive. I will tackle my to-do list that I have been putting off and feel great after accomplishing them. I will take charge of my life and do things that are necessary for a better better, for me.

June 7, 2022: Tina, a message to you from Rumi: "I want to sing like the birds sing, not worry who listens or what they think."
Easier said than done but I'll do my best to not let others get to me. And do my best to not let other's opinion determine my plan of action.
I will love myself by acknowledging all the hard work I've put into my work. Results take time. And even if there isn't any result yet, I did my best.

June 8, 2022: How will you show yourself some love?
Today I will love myself by taking myself out to brunch. There's this new place that I've wanted to visit for the longest time but they're always fully booked. So I managed to get a seat yesterday - heading over today to check it out!

June 30, 2022: How does it feel, Tina? Believing in yourself. Is that a sensation you can get used to?
I guess. I got in trouble today for believing in my choices. Or I dunno. Maybe it wasn't just that. I didn't want to do what my partner told me to do. And so I lied to my partner. Told my partner I did as told and not do it. He found out today because I decided to stop lying, came clean. I hate lying. I made a choice today to never lie to my partner again.

"Nobody is worth stressing over. People come and go. Move on and go find yourself, the world is yours. Life goes on."

"Don't cry over the past, it's gone. Don't stress about the future, it hasn't arrived. Live in the present and make it beautiful."

July 13, 2022: Choose the source of your strength, Tina. "Pessimism leads to weakness, optimism to power." - William James
I choose optimism. This quote came at a good timing. I was feeling defeated just now when my partner won't close our physical distance gap. But honestly, I shouldn't be this upset. He is living his life the way he wants to. I just have to recognize his actions and see him for who he is, where his priorities are. How he views our relationship. What I see is that our reunion is not as important as what he is building now. Just because he isn't putting in 100% effort, doesn't mean he doesn't care at all. He can do what he needs to do to close the gap, if he ever make the trip at all. If he doesn't come, I'll be fine. It is what it is.
I'm grateful for this gratitude journal that I can read when I'm feeling not the best. I'm grateful I can show gratitude even when I'm feeling like the whole world is against me. I'm grateful, for real, for how life keeps favoring me when least expected. I'm grateful for the opportunities to grow. I'm grateful I can bounce back faster year in-year out and I'm loosing the bad habit of feeling sorry for myself: I have better things to do with my time, like sleep.

"Quit telling yourself you don't have any way to change your circumstances, you have the power."

"Stop doubting yourself. Work hard and make it happen."

"How other people see me and what they feel about me is their business, not mine."

August 2, 2022: Let yourself daydream, Tina. Imagine the new you in vivid detail.
Yes I am. I'm living my life the only way I know is possible now. Maximizing everyday. I won't regret in a year, 5 years or 10 years because you can't Tina. Today, you did your very best. You gave your all. And whatever results you get, it's the best you've done and you will keep doing. So enjoy it. Cherish it. Because you are living the dream. Don't rush through them. It will only be a memory by the time you read this. Viva la vida in the present love.
Today I'm grateful for a productive day and rest. I have been so busy putting so many events in my calendar. It's nice to have tonight all to myself with no plans. I can finally watch the new season of Dream Home Makeover on Netflix and relax. I have been very disciplined and intentional with my life. I am happy and fulfilled. I feel mentally much stronger because I have put in the work. I'm grateful for my power that I will never allow anyone to take it away from me ever again. I love you Tina, always will.

August 24, 2022: How will you show yourself some love?
I will show myself some love today by being more conscious of my feelings. Be very purposely in listening to myself and be patient with myself. I won't rush over things because I just need to get things done. I will live in each moment and be present.

"The truth is, everyone is going to hurt you. You just got to find the ones worth suffering for." - Bob Marley

August 25, 2022: "The future is still not here," Tina "and cannot become a part of experienced reality until it is present." - Alan Watts
Don't stress about what's going to happen. Focus on what you want to say and be prepared for any questions. Don't blame yourself for not knowing what is going to happen. You can't predict nor control the future.

"Life is too short to wake up in the morning with regrets. So love the people who treat you right and forget about the ones who don't."

"We're so busy watching out for what's just ahead of us that we don't time to enjoy where we are." - Bill Watterson

September 18, 2022: Let yourself dream, Tina. Wander into the story of your life.
I am coming to terms that no one cares about me the way I need them to care about me. Yet, I kept dreaming they will by putting more effort to win their love. I need to learn, and stop. I will from now on, with all my might, put myself in front of others. I will love myself more and only need me. I don't need anyone else to love me to feel complete. I can be complete with myself. This quote is good. These years I'm so fixated that my life story should be somewhere else. I kept forcing something that wasn't mine. My life is here now and I will do what I can to make the best of my time here. In 10 years time, I will look back and say gee Tina, you really did live the best you could. I will not look back with regret. Instead, I will look back and say thank you Tina. Thank you for being you and bringing all these memories into our life. Thank you. I love you. You are the best. Keep going. Tomorrow will be better. You can do this. You are strong and resilient. You are the love of my life.

"Work hard in silence, let success make the noise."

"Friendship isn't about who you've known the longest, it's about who walked in to your life, said "I'm here for you," and proved it."

September 21, 2022: Tina, to move a mountain, one begins by carrying away small stones.
Yes. Remember, you have moved many stones and this isn't the first mountain you've moved. It might not be the last but just remember, the only way is through hard work and resilience. Sprinkle a little positive attitude and there's a rainbow in the near distance.

"Don't compare your life to others. There's no comparison between the sun and the moon, they shine when it's their time."

"I used to think that the worst thing in life was to end up all alone. It's not. The worst thing in life is ending up with people who make you feel all alone." - Robin Williams

"How does one become a butterfly? You must want to fly so much that you are willing to give up being a caterpillar."

"A hater is nothing but a fan. They just don't know how to express it in a positive way." - Bar Refaeli

October 02, 2022: It’s ok to prioritize yourself and respect people's decision to prioritize themselves.
Don’t get angry at people if they don’t prioritize you. That is narcissistic. You don’t like if people do that to you too.
Set boundaries but also respect other people’s boundaries too.
It’s your responsibility to make sure you are not lonely. No one is responsible for your feelings.
Love yourself and stop sabotaging yourself.
Be grateful and learn to walk away from things you don’t want. Not other people’s wants.

"Never hate jealous people. They are jealous because they think you are better than them." - Paulo Coelho

"Attitude is a little thing that makes a big difference." - Winston Churchill

"The things that make me different are the things that make me, me." - Winnie the Pooh

"A truly happy person is one who can enjoy the scenery while on a detour."

"Better to remain silent and be thought a fool than to speak out and remove all doubt." - Abraham Lincoln

"You have to stop worrying about whether people like you. Some people don't even like themselves."

"Haters only hate the things they can't have and the people they can't be."

"The greatest gift you can give someone is the space to be his or herself, without the threat of you leaving."

"Start to stop doing what you know to be wrong." - Jordan Peterson

"This is the start of the rest of your life, the first chapter in your story, it doesn't end here."

"If we keep doing what we are doing, we're going to keep getting what we're getting."

"Rumors are carried by haters, spread by fools, and accepted by idiots." - Nishan Panwar

"So much of our time is spent worrying about the opinions of people that don't ultimately matter to us." - Shane Parrish

"The anxiety many feel is a result of trying to live in the world their imagination created, while being forced to live in the real world." - Thibaut

"Those who spend their time looking for the faults in others, usually spend no time to correct their own."

"How high you fly is derived from how big you think." - Robin Sharma

"Learning to ignore things is one of the great paths to inner peace." - Robert J. Sawyer

"The only true wisdom is in knowing you know nothing." - Socrates

"Some people have so little going on in their lives, they would rather discuss yours."

"The mistakes I've made are dead to me. But I can't take back the things I never did." - Jonathan Safran Foer

"You'll survive this just like you survived every other hardship that's been places before you."

"Jealousy is an ugly emotion, but it tells the truth. You mostly envy those who have what you desire." - Susan Cain

"And when no one comes to rescue you, you'll find that you've always been strong enough to rescue yourself."

"It is the mark of an educated mind to be able to entertain a thought without accepting it." Aristotle

"It's okay to be aware of what other people think about you; it's not okay to let it dictate your actions."

"If you want to be happy, be." - Leo Tosltoy

"And those who were seen dancing were thought to be insane by those who could not hear the music." - Friedrich Nietzsche

"Nothing is a coincidence. Everything you're experiencing is meant to happen exactly how it's happening. Embrace the lessons. Be grateful."

"Anyone can love you when things are alright. It takes courage to love when things are not good, and it does not feel right." Yolanda Adams

"You don't have to be available to everyone and everything. When you give up what's not working, you make space in your life for what will."

"While we try to teach our children all about life, our children teach us what life is all about." - Angela Schwindt

"Energy is contagious, positive and negative alike. I will forever be mindful of what and who I am allowing in my space." - Alex Elle

"Don't believe everything you think. Thoughts are just that - thoughts." - Allan Lokos

"Ego is false confidence, self-respect is true confidence." Naval Ravikant

"What good is an idea if it remains an idea? Try. Experiment. Iterate. Fail. Try again. Change the world." - Simon Sinek

"People who consider themselves victims of their circumstances will always remain victims unless they develop a greater vision for their lives." - Stedman Graham

"Circumstance does not make the man. Circumstance reveals man to himself." - Emerson

"In order to rise from its own ashes, a Phoenix first must burn." - Octavia Butler

"Don't ever stop dating your wife and don't ever stop flirting with your husband."

February 22, 2023: There is power in your intention, Tina. Lean towards the life you desire. Envision it in your mind's eye.
This is what we spoke about with Sandy for her energy healing session tomorrow. What is my intention during my energy healing and I love that this is the quote of the day. And kind of on the same sound track as the power of NOW.
My intention is to get my freedom back.

February 23, 2023: Never leave the present moment, Tina. It is where you will change the world.
Today I did energy healing for the first time with Sandy. It was an incredible experience and not trying to oversell it, right now, all night after the session, I feel clearer.
During the session, I felt a light vibration around my whole body and I kept seeing Buddha of various versions with my eyes closed. Then when I woke up, I felt my throat was so sore and Sandy told me that when she was healing me, she felt that there was a lot of things stuck in my throat and she cleared it. This is before I told her my throat felt different. All night, I was receiving blessing from various people.
Maybe it's because of the healing. Maybe it's because of that I'm more present. I just have a good feeling about tomorrow.
I will take care of my mind and be gentle with my mind when the mind is spiraling into random thoughts that do not serve a purpose for the present.

"The measure of who we are is what we do with what we have."

February 24, 2023: Your current situation does not define you Tina. The future is unwritten. Spend some time imagining one that excites you.
Sighs. I'm keeping my spirits up and positive. Today I really thought we'd make some progress but they stuck to their unreasonable request so things are stagnant. If I don't do something about it, it's going to to be a hard year.
I will show myself love by being kind and gentle with my own thoughts to and of myself.

"Everyone's story will eventually come to an end, but you can decide how you get there."

March 1, 2023: Tina, whatever you want to accomplish, it'll go better if you don't beat yourself up. Give yourself credit for what you are doing, never punishment for what you aren't.
A lot of thoughts went in my mind today. I realized that I've pretty much put my situation as everyone else's problem instead of mine. I should be doing the most work by myself.
Also, as I watch the influencers I admire, as fabulous as their lives are, they hustle. They look good because they work hard on their looks. They all have big multimillion businesses on top of looking good and having a family or kids. They never blame other people for their own problems. They fix things. They are strong.
I have to be strong. That's step one. Step two, stop being so lazy. I am lazy. Come on Tina. You look the way you look because you don't put enough effort in your diet and workout. Get on it. If you care so much about how you look and looking bad makes you feel emotionally bad, why do you do things and make choices to prolong it? Same as drinking. I need to get better at my consumption. Sure I can be fun and everyone loves Tina Tequila. But what about hangover Tina? Only you deal with her. And hangover Tina is telling you: every time she appears, you cut your life shorter and you waste time doing nothing. Being a zombie and in pain. Not worth it.
Lastly, this is a thought I just had in the shower, I know why I'm gravitated to people who have something of their own. They built it. They enjoy the life they made. If I'm ever going to become one of them, I also need to work out on finding my thing and get on it.
Tina, you're not getting any younger. But I have faith in you because now, finally, you get it. You are on the right path, you can do this!!
I have loved myself today by feeding myself good food and taking a break when needed.
Things need to get done but I also know self love is required to keep me sane when charging forward.
I will no longer wear myself out and continue to live life with physical and mental discomfort.
Every experience is worth living and remembering because this moment will never relive itself again.

"If you tell the truth you don't have to remember anything." - Mark Twain

"Stop hating yourself for everything you aren't. Start loving yourself for everything you are."

"Stop imagining, stop wondering, stop obsessing."

"One moment can change a day, one day can change a life and one life can change the world." - Buddha

"It is wise to find out than suppose." - Mark Twain

March 10, 2023: Tina, "Good habits can make rational sense, but if they conflict with your identity, you will fail to put them into action." - James Clear
Just had a thought:
Complaining is a popular hobby for mentally poor and lazy people. Motivated people with lots to do will have already done something with the resources they have to fix their problem. They won't have time to complain nor gossip.
I have been complaining so much in my head. Overthinking, self-victimization and blaming are such a bad habits.
I need to make better habits. After watching the Khardasians, I realized why they are getting more influential and looked upon as they grow.
Other than the fact that they live an obviously fabulous life with many life opportunities available to them, they also expressed their discontent and do something about it. They don't drown in their own misery and sell stories about what a poor thing they are. Why? Because they won't get any sympathy if they present themselves as victims. No one would think oh poor girl let's help them. Instead, they bring beauty to the world and people are naturally attracted to beauty, inside and out.
Therefore, I need to change my strategy. So far, I've been complaining that I'm a victim of my life situation. I need to start doing something about this. Reach out to all the resources at my disposal to fix the problem, one by one.
No one will fix my problem for me. I have to take charge.

"Resentment is like drinking poison and then hoping it will kill your enemies." - Nelson Mandela

"Just because someone doesn't love you the way you want them to, doesn't mean they don't love you with all that have."

"Never discourage anyone who continually makes progress, no matter how slow." - Plato

"There will always be someone who doesn't value you - make sure it's not you."

"If you are not where you want ot be its because you are not grinding hard enough."

"Keep silence for the most part, and speak only when you must, and then briefly." - Epictetus

"If you want to fly, you got ot give up the shit that weighs you down." - Toni Morrison

"Little minds have little worries, big minds have no time for worries." - Ralph Waldo Emerson

"Personal development is a major time-saver. The better you become, the less time it takes you to achieve your goals." - Brian Tracy

"Silence the angry man with love.
Silence the ill natured man with kindness.
Silence the miser with generosity.
Silence the liar with truth." - Buddha

"To cure jealousy is to see it for what it is, a dissatisfaction with self." - Joan Didion

"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." - Dalai Lama

"You don't get to choose if you get hurt in this world. But you do have some say in who hurts you." - John Green

"Obstacles can't stop you. Problems can't stop you. People can't stop you. Only you can stop you."

"Spend your time on those that love you unconditionally. Don't waste it on those that only love you when the conditions are right for them."

"I will not be another flower, picked for my beauty and left to die. I will be wild, difficult to find, and impossible to forget." - Erin Van Vuren

"Whenever possible, choose the path that brings you the most healing."

"Don't chase, don't beg, don't stress, don't be desperate, just relax. When you relax, it will come to you. Make your wants want you."

"I have never seen a greater monster or miracle than myself." - Michel de Montaigne

"Stop giving your attention to anything that isn't contributing to your happiness. Your mental health is so much more important."

"Beneath anger, there are hurt feelings." - Yong Kang Chan

"Anxiety, the illness of our time, comes primarily from our inability to dwell in the present moment." - Thich Nhat Hanh

April 8, 2023: How will you show yourself some love?
I will show myself love today by reading the business start up books I bought yesterday. Finally knowing the "what," "why," and "how" to start will remove this lethargic, stuck feeling to get me started. I will also do yoga, meditate, and eat healthier so that my body can be fueled with all the good energy.

"Focus your energies on people who bring you love, peace and positivity. And make sure you bring those things to yourself."

"When you surround yourself with people who support your dreams, you will achieve success more quickly."

April 9, 2023: Can you break that habit down into tinier steps and take the first one today, Tina?
Yes I can!

"Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward."

"Never apologize for having high standards, people who really want to be in your life will rise to meet them."

"The first step towards getting somewhere is to decide you're not going to stay where you are." - J. P. Morgan

"Don't waste your time looking back on what you've lost. Move on, for life is not meant to be traveled backwards."

"Surround yourself with people who make you hungry for life, touch your heart, and nourish your soul."

"You know it's love when all you want is that person to be happy, even if you're not part of their happiness." - Julia Roberts

"If you lost someone but found yourself, you won."

"Rule #1 of life. Do what makes you happy."

"Be thankful and appreciative for what doesn't work out. It's leaving room for something better."

April 21, 2023: How will you show yourself some love?
I will love myself by being tuned into my feelings and being mindful to not let my thoughts of what others might think about me guide my decisions and actions. I have to make decision for myself. By myself.

"People cry, not because they're weak. It's because they've been strong for too long." - Johnny Depp

"Knowing what it feels to be in pain, is exactly why we try to be kind to others." - Jiraiya

"Entrepreneur - A crazy person who risks their own money for freedom, rather than exchanging their freedom for money."

"If it's endurable, then endure it. Stop complaining." - Marcus Aurelius

"Let's not spoil good weather by worrying about the storm."

"sometimes the bad things that happen in our lives put us directly on the path to the best things that will ever happen to us."

"Nobody's perfect. We all fall down. What matters most is how quickly we get back up, learn from our mistakes and move on."

"Play and don't take yourself or the world so seriously. Create reasons to laugh."

"Trying to please everyone is a recipe for stress, misery and frustration. Be yourself, it'll be good to know who's down with that."

"We can't become what we need to be by remaining what we are." - Oprah Winfrey

"A husband and wife may disagree on many things but they must absolutely agree on this: to never, ever give up."

"The hustle brings the dollar. The experience brings the knowledge. The persistence brings success." - Ross Simmonds

"The most you talk about negative things in your life, the more you call them in. Talk about winning, not about losing."

"Please never allow silly little things to steal your happiness."

"When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be. When I let go of what I have, I receive what I need." - Lao Tzu

"The best of people is the one who humbles himself the more his rank increases." - Prophet Muhammad

"Whatever comes, let it come, what stays let stay, what goes let go." - Papaji

"Ships don't sink because of the water around them; ships sink because of the water that gets in them. Don't let what's happening around you get inside you and weigh you down."

"Your attitude is a major factor in all the outcomes of your life."

"A man who doesn't trust himself can never really trust anyone else." - Cardinal De Retz

"Remember how far you've come, not just how far you have to go. You are not where you want to be, but neither are you where you used to be." - RIck Warren

"You only control your own actions and your own emotions. Only worry about things under your control." - Justin Kan

"If you propose to speak always ask yourself, is it true, is it necessary, is it kind." - Buddha

"One of the most toxic things I've ever done is ignoring the bad in someone because I love them."

"It's better to break your own heart by leaving, rather than having that person break your heart every day you're with them."

"Enjoy this moment, because this moment is your life."

"Don't be afraid to lose what was never meant to be."

"When you're depressed it's easy to become nostalgic of older, better times."

"Never let someone who contributes so little to a relationship control so much of it."

"Friday is my second favorite F-word. My first is food, definitely food."

"People's expectations from you are their problem, not yours." - Thibaut

"FEAR: False Evidence Appearing Real."

"Everything we hear is an opinion, not a fact. Everything we see is perspective, not the truth." - Marcus Aurelius

"No amount of self-improvement can make up for any lack of self-acceptance." - Robert Holden

"Control what you can. Ignore the rest." - Eric Barker

"You don't have to feel guilty when stopping to fix cracks in your self-confidence."

"The way they leave tells you everything."

"You amplify everything you react to." - The Stoic Emperor

"Never love something so much that you can't let go of it." - Ginni Rometty

"Give your mind time away from the serious parts of life, just like a computer you need to power down once in awhile."

"The best way to predict the future is to create it." - Abraham Lincoln

"Haters are the people who will broadcast your failures and whisper your success." - Will Smith

"Anger, resentment and jealousy doesn't change the heart of others -- it only changes yours." - Shannon Alder

"Care about what other people think and you will always be their prisoner." - Lao Tzu

"If you want a calm, peaceful mind, surround yourself with a calm, peaceful environment."

"Cultivate intuition and trust faith: let go of the need for certainty." - Brené Brown

"There is only one way to happiness and that is to cease worrying about things which are beyond the power of our will." - Epictetus

"In the process of letting go you will lose many things from the past, but you will find yourself." - Deepak Chopra

"When someone treats you like an option, help them narrow their choices by removing yourself from the equation. It's that simple."

"The more consistent you are at taking care of yourself the more consistent your results will be."

"Your mental health matters. Protect it."

"Temporary people don't deserve permanent feelings."

"Whenever you find yourself on the side of the majority, it is time to pause and reflect." - Mark Twain

"You are the only person you need to be good enough for."

"Be mindful of your thoughts. They will become your reality."

"Sometimes you just have to accept the fact that some people only enter your life as a temporary happiness."

"You're the author of your life. If you don't like a chapter, write a new one."

"Sometimes you have to accept the truth and stop wasting time on the wrong people."

"Don't talk, just act. Don't say, just show. Don't promise, just prove."

"Always stay strong, even when your family makes you feel weak."

"The way to get started is to quit talking and begin doing." - Walt Disney

"When someone isn't treating you right, no matter how much you love them, you've got to love yourself more and walk away."

"Your time is way too valuable to be wasting on people that can't accept who you are." - Turcois Ominek

February 23, 2024: What are you grateful for today, Tina?
I am grateful for a full night sleep. I am grateful my dreams are just dreams and I have control of my day instead of being controlled in my dream.
I'm grateful my partner work up early to complete his work so he can fly over to see me tonight!! YEAH REUNION!!

"One day, you will look back at this time in your life and be so proud of yourself for never giving up."

March 1, 2024: What are you grateful for today, Tina?
I'm grateful for everything that I have as resources. They keep me comfortable while I solve challenges in my life.

"Give yourself permission to make the choices that make you the happiest instead of the limp decisions that make you look responsible."

"The only real prison is fear, and the only real freedom is freedom from fear." - Aung San Suu Kyi

"The nearer a man comes to a calm mind, the closer he is to strength." - Marcus Aurelius

"When you're feeling anxious, remember that you're still you. You are not your anxiety." - Deanne Repich

"No matter how much you love the person, you cannot change them. You may influence them; but at the end of the day, they must decide for themselves." - Robert E. Baines Jr.

"There is no way to happiness - happiness is the way." - Thich Nhat Hanh

March 19, 2024: How will you show yourself some love?
I will show myself some love by keeping firm with my boundaries. I am in tune with my feelings and I will speak up when things don't feel right. I will not let what I think society expects from me, become me. I am the driver of my journey and I can choose who to let in my car, which turn to take and when to stop.

March 22, 2024: Remember your reason, Tina, why is now the time to say yes to a more Fabulous you.
Now is the time to say yes to a more fabulous me because I have somehow through luck and hard work undo years of repression of myself. I can finally for the first time feel and am kind enough to let myself feel. I am excited to see what the future has in store for me and the emotional memories I can create. I am also less fearful of the unknown and have learnt skillsets to focus on being present. Being present allows me to not put too much energy on fearing the unknowns. Not all unknowns are happy and good. But what's the fun in life if everything is happy and good. We become numb. I welcome variety. However, I need to be prepared and strong enough to welcome variety.
I wanna feel beauty from within and outside. When I look at myself I see beauty. And that's all that matters. Only my opinion of myself matters to me.

"The difference between ordinary and extraordinary is that little extra." - Jimmy Johnson

April 8, 2024: What are you grateful for today, Tina?
I am grateful for technology. Having these apps to keep me on track with my self help, mediation and self love journey. I'm also grateful for a full night of sleep. I was able to sleep through the entire night and wake up this morning feeling energized, ready to accept the day.

"Growth and comfort don't spend time in the same room." - Jshua Fields Millburn

"They stab you and pretend they are the one bleeding."

"Give yourself some credit for the days you made it when you thought you couldn't."

"Overthinking will have you breaking your own heart."

"They wanna see you do good, but never better than them. Remember that."

"Once you see that things get better with time, you will see the reason why you had to be patient with yourself."

"May you reach that level within, where you no longer allow your past or people with toxic intentions to negatively affect or condition you." - Lalah Delia

"Insecure people put others down to raise themselves up." - Habeeb Akande

"Remember: we don't control what happens, we control how we respond." - Ryan Holiday

"Stop wasting your time on people who treat you good one day, and then act like you didn't exist the next day."

"New beginnings require a new mindset, get your mind right so you don't fall back into the old patterns."

"Procrastination is the lazy cousin of fear. When we feel anxiety around an activity, we postpone it." - Noelle Hancock

"Forgive yourself for the mistakes and decisions of the past. You were doing the best you could at that time."

"If I cut you off, chances are, you handed me the scissors."

"Strong women are often perceived as cold and mean simply because they refuse to be disrespected, mistreated or taken for granted."

April 7, 2025: How will you show yourself some love?
I will love myself by not letting anyone or thing make me feel burdened. I want to do things I enjoy. Both the hard stuff and the easy stuff. But most importantly, I'll be mindful of how I feel and take steps to remove things that stress me out. For example, I'm so stressed when I walk Milky so I'm looking for professional help to navigate her to walk better before I tackle the task of walking her again by myself. This is for the both of us but mainly me. Because it's causing me a lot of stress and anxiety even thinking about having to walk her when she's charging at every thing on the busy street. I want to feel more confident walking her again.

April 21, 2025: How do I feel today — emotionally, physically, mentally? What’s beneath the surface?
I feel emotionally drained. I don’t feel connected with anyone or anything. I feel like a lonely person just getting through the motion. I feel that the things I do are just passing time. What’s the point? There’s no point. Maybe that’s the point. What’s the point of fixating on the point when there’s not supposed to be a point. This I feel depressed about. Physically, I have been force feeding myself unhealthy oily food that does not make me feel good. I can’t get myself to eat healthy food. I know what they are. I don’t mind the taste. I just can’t make decisions to buy and eat them. But when I’m eating unhealthy food I don’t feel that good too. Then it’s like what’s the point again. Mentally, I’m not well. I don’t like that I have to live in a limbo. I also don’t have a lot of faith that this limbo will end this year. I don’t trust anyone or anything anymore. 

June 13, 2025: Tina, a small favor to ask: be especially kind to yourself today.
I've been putting off a task because I haven't been feeling emotional well enough to do it. So, instead of forcing work which only I myself am accountable for, I rested the last two days. I mean I did house work, took care of myself with cooked food, bonded with Milky and consumed content that nourishes my soul. It's Friday night and I feel so much better. I will tackle this task tomorrow, I'm ready. Then I'll go to the supermarket to buy ingredients to cook from the Jamie Oliver cookbook.
I appreciate myself being kind to myself all week. Listening mindfully when I need a break, take that break, and also completed most of the tasks I've set out for myself. Thank you Tina.

June 17, 2025: What do I need today to feel safe and supported?
At the core, I need financial stability to know that my standard of living will not be compromised. This is the foundation for everything. Only when I feel supported by myself, I will feel safe to venture more into unknowns. If not, it's just an unknown that opens up as a black hole of pain. Today, I will visit the ways in which I financially support myself and explore their sustainability.

June 24, 2025: What’s one thing I can let go of that I no longer want to carry?
I can let go of the pent up, overdue anger. I no longer want to carry unrealistic expectations of myself, people I care about and the general public. I only have to trust my instinct, learn to be present and feel each experience as is. All spectrums of emotions are welcome.

“I don’t chase alignment. I cultivate it.”

“I lead with heart, not performance.”

“I grow with grace. I lead with heart. I rise with purpose.”